C'mon Inner Peace… I Don't Have All Damn Day
As the new year approaches, we tend to re-evaluate our lives and make promises we might not keep. Here is a list of things that will help make 2015 one of the best years yet!
I’ve discovered that life is ultimately about choices:
A choice to be happy instead of dwelling on the negatives we encounter each day. A choice to put one foot in front of the other instead of complaining. A choice to change your life for the better instead of blaming people or circumstances for holding you back and a choice to surround yourself with positive people instead of just hanging with whoever is around.
So, here are some secrets I have learned to create a life filled with happiness and immense gratification.
1) You must go after what you want
Set positive goals and truly go after them with steady forward moving baby steps.
Maybe you want to go back to school; finish this time.
Lose that weight and keep it off.
Create that blog; make the scrap-book; go on that vacation you have always dreamed of… don’t have the cash? Get a part time job and save the money.
Set. A. Goal. And. See. It. Through.
I can not understate the importance of following through with your goals no matter how long it takes. Do not listen to those who are negative about your goals; ignore them… ultimately your only boss IS YOU.
2) You must step out of your comfort zone
You do not grow if you stay in your comfort zone; step out and do something that scares the crap out of you.
I once stood in front of a classroom to give a speech, know what happened? I survived! My hands shook like a leaf, and I was noticeably uncomfortable, but really… who cares? I now know I can do it whenever I want.
There are ways to get over fears such as hypnosis… so shut up and do it already.
Which brings me to…
3) When you really want something you will find a way
You don’t really want something if you continuously make excuses …you are pretty much just talking shit and everyone else knows this too.
You’re not fooling anyone but yourself, so stop making excuses.
You don’t really want to lose weight if you don’t put in the effort to do so. You don’t really want to leave a job you complain about endlessly if you are not pro-actively setting up your resume and job interviews.
4) You must ASK for things
People are not mind readers. Speak up!
I was once given my dream job by simply asking for it.
Read about it here—> Just Ask
5) Like… attracts like.
When you complain about something, more of what drives you crazy comes your way.
Negative energy creates negative energy, and the opposite is true as well. If you want a beautiful life, start by creating positive thoughts.
Good things will follow.
Road rage? Drama-filled relationships? Do you hate your job? Boredom? Gossiping friends? Complaining… Complaining… Complaining…
All these things are energy drainers that will never lead to a beautiful life if you do not change your thoughts.
Only YOU can make the conscious effort to do so.
6) Be grateful for small things
I admit that I underestimated the power of being grateful, but when you take the time to count the beautiful things in your life you can see that it’s not so bad.
Those of us who are ungrateful are usually angrier.
Being thankful to have a roof over your head or a car that gets you to work creates a basis that you already have a solid foundation to build on.
What are you thankful for? Start right now.
7) When time flies…
Always follow your dreams, especially… when you find something that makes time fly!
It amazes me when I hear someone say “I used to love dancing” but they no longer dance. Life gets in the way for too many people and they stop listening to their souls.
I am a firm believer that you MUST follow the thing that makes time fly.
Read about it here–> When Time Flies
8) Send them love and move on.
My father used to say, “you are who you hang with,” so surround yourself with people who are achieving their goals, creating a happy life, educating their minds and supporting your positive choices.
Some may think you’ve become a snob, but you need to make the choice to be surrounded by people that fill you with love.
Start losing patience for nonsense and strive to live life in a drama-free manner. Clear out the clutter!
You are allowed to be selfish here.
Notice the people who don’t make you feel good and start distancing yourself from them.
End of story; send them love, but move on.
9) Create dinky indulgences
Whatever your indulgences are, you NEED to create space for them in your life. Do things that make your soul smile; create happiness by cultivating things that feel good.
There are so many ways to restore your spirit, such as crème brule, yoga, sunsets or even a long drive with happy music playing.
Make a conscious habit to pursue these things I call “Dinky Indulgences.”
10) Passion is a noisy thing…
We all have to learn life lessons as we mature, but the childish, jealous and controlling relationships will never create a happy life.
They are energy draining, and do nothing for a beautiful future.
Young love was cute… and ridiculous. Don’t ever put up with relationships that cause drama.
Marry your best friend. A best friend won’t cheat, play games or manipulate you, a best friend respects you… FOR you.
Travel… is more of an education than anything else. Travel kills racism, and creates tolerance of humankind.
Travel makes you step into the unknown, away from your comfort zones; it creates memories and gives you priceless enlightenment.
I can always tell a person who is not well traveled simply from their closed mind.
Read about “A Person Who Travels”
12) Coincidences, notice them
I have gone over and over this in my head, having sooo many mathematically impossible coincidences in my life. What I have come to realize is that they are just that… a coincidence.
Notice them, and take them into account, but… ultimately your gut instinct and your own intellect is the best guide.
Sometimes, trying to figure these things out takes more energy and peace of mind than it’s worth. I know people who immerse themselves into the meanings, “What does that mean?” They fixate on these coincidences.
Do yourself a favor, notice them and move on.
13) Go home
Your roots created you!
Going home doesn’t have to mean physically going to your childhood neighborhood, it can also mean analyzing your past to find out why you behave the way you do. In order to move forward we need re-examine who we are and why,
“A life unexamined is not a life worth living.” -Socrates
So many of us are blissfully unaware of these patterns from our childhood and never try to fix them. They have passive aggressive tendencies or control issues stemming from somewhere that continue to ruin happiness.
We have the choice to figure it out and correct these neurosis, so why would you continue on a self-destructive path if you could fix it?
14) You need to dress the part
Be prepared at all times to meet the contacts that may guide you in the direction you choose. Dressing like a homeless person will never lead you to a better life.
What you choose to wear each morning says a lot about YOU.
Do you know what you look like? <—–read more here.
15) Fake it till you make it
I watched a TED talk once about a woman who went to Harvard but never felt like she belonged. She was given the advise to “fake it until she made it”.
I have found that none of us really ever feel that we deserve the promotion or that we belong in a certain position.
This is normal… FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT. People on the outside don’t know this, until they are in the same position.
Hopefully, these lessons I have learned will also help you to have not only an amazing 2015, but a future full of making better choices to create the life of your dreams!
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I have learned through my study of Buddhism that you can create the life of your dreams by the choices we make each day. Buddhists never say that mystical forces such as God do not exist, they simply know they don’t have those answers.
Buddhism is a fluid philosophy that can change as life does. Nothing is set with one rigid belief system, and that’s the beauty that has set me free.
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