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My Big Fat Sikh Wedding: Indian Astrology

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In case you are not aware a large portion of people in India live their lives completely by astrology and endless other superstitions.

While we in the west may have dabbled a bit with daily horoscopes or even knowing a little about the personality traits of each sign; India takes this to a whole other level.

Lucky for Manpreet I’ve had an interest in astrology since I was little, so I am not completely foreign this ancient art-form. Although, I do have to say I feel as if I have been thrown into the big-leagues of chaos on this one.

After my new mother-in-law consulted her astrologer about our wedding, they determined there are only a few days in the near future which would be acceptable for us to be married.

None of those approved dates are possible for me due to school, money or time constraints.

The chances of the entire family agreeing on a wedding date in India is like winning the lottery. You know it’s possible, but… probably not.

If you have been keeping up with our story, we waited two years for an interview with the US embassy and were denied our visa.

Now, we want to get married in India and start the visa process all over again… another 18 months of waiting. For us, the sooner we get married the less wait we have to be together.

Right?

No… “The Stars” have the final say and that’s that!

End of story.

At first I was going to India December 9th of this year, but his mother says it’s bad luck to be married if either the bride or groom have a birthday during same month as the wedding.

Aaannnnnd, I was born in December.

So then I chose New Years Day, Sikh people don’t drink so it’s not like everyone will be hungover. “What better day for new beginnings?” I thought.

But no… the stars say that we can’t get married until after the new moon in March of 2016.

Sigh.

Apparently there are only two weeks during the entire year of 2016 that would be completely acceptable for Manpreet and I to get married. In complete disbelief I did my own research, and this is what I found:

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Indian Astrology Wedding Dates

It’s “true” according to Indian astrology.

As you can see by the “parameters” set in this very scientific chart, it MUST be after a new moon, but before a full moon; Venus CAN NOT be in reverse OR in an “unlucky” sign… and for some reason, the entire month of May is just unacceptable.

This leaves us with one week in March and one week in September if we have any chance whatsoever for this marriage to succeed.

In trying to be considerate, I said “ok, my spring break is in March, I guess we can do that.” Mind you, that is a full six months from now; I wouldn’t have Manpreet here in the U.S. until October of 2017.

I want to be accommodating and culturally aware. I want to be kind and fit-in with my new family, but we have waited so long already.

Thirty-minutes after I agree to getting married in March, it was shot down because the Indian festival of Holi is in March… apparently the entire month is not ok for marriage either?

what the whaaa?

what the whaaa?

You see, I’m the one who will be to blame if this relationship fails. If I choose a date that suits my budget and time constraints then I’m going against thousands of years of tradition. I’m the one who comes from a culture where divorce is rampant.

I was beside myself.

Manpreet felt pressure coming from his family and also from me, when he finally said “Screw it, just come in December as we originally planned.”

I felt a sense of relief. “Ok, good. I can finally buy the plane tickets.”

But just when I was about to click “purchase” I was told that his cousin decided she was getting married on our original day… since we were not using it.

Huh?

Well played. Very well played. So, March 2016 it is.

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Related links below:

For more stories in the Gori and the Sikh category, click—> HERE

Read about “My Indian Boyfriend “—>HERE

My Big Fat Sikh Wedding: Indian Astrology —> HERE

My Big Fat Sikh Wedding: The Dress —> HERE

My Big Fat Sikh Wedding: Prelude —> HERE

My Big Fat Sikh Wedding: Show Time —> HERE

Surviving Long Distance Love—> HERE

Open Letter to my Husband—> HERE

Our Honeymoon, Rishikesh India—> HERE

K1 Fiance Visa Process—> HERE

US Embassy New Delhi K1 Interview—> HERE

Cr1 Marriage Visa Timeline—> HERE

Journey to New Delhi—> HERE 

First Trip to Jaipur India —> HERE

Our First Diwali—> HERE

Giving Thanks, Shukryia  —> HERE

Being Sikh in America—> HERE

The Indian Grocery—> HERE

A Path to Happiness—> HERE

 

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22 comments on “My Big Fat Sikh Wedding: Indian Astrology

  1. Mani (A New Life Wandering)
    October 17, 2015

    omg! how very frustrated you must be.
    I just came back from a trip to India and I while there a attended an Indian birthday party. The girl was turning 24 and she wasn’t happy because she said now everyone is going to be expecting her to marry soon. The family was relatively non traditional as they would allow her to pick her husband, or if the father picked, she had to approve. But then she said that her astrology charts would be done and if they came out bad the wedding would be off.
    It is amazing how much importance they put in astrology.

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    • Britt
      October 17, 2015

      Haha yes, I’m being thrown into the big leagues. So far it’s not really too bad for me, we listen to the family and still respectful do our own thing. Ultimately the date doesn’t matter, we just want to be married and hopefully the family will all mesh perfectly. But yes, it’s frustrating and culturally different. He’s worth it though! 😜

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  2. iamtanmay
    October 23, 2015

    Oh man, what a bummer. I am Indian too, but if I ever marry, it will be in a church (I am atheist though), and on my terms, not my family’s.

    Yeah, there are all sorts of Indian families, some super unorthodox and free spirited, but most very traditional.

    Good luck to you.

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    • Britt
      October 25, 2015

      Thank you! I’m lucky, his family is amazing, it’s just these odd cultural things we all have to adjust to I guess.

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