Buddhaful Britt

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True Love Lives Quietly


Recently, friends keep asking me for my advise about love. They act as if maybe I am some sort of “love guru” on something I know nothing about simply because I am in love with an amazing man.

I always tell them the same thing, over and over.  “Passion is a noisy thing… but true love lives quietly“.

I say this, fully expecting them to have some major epiphany; just as I did when I first heard this phrase back in high school many years ago.

…but they never do.

Somehow, I have clutched onto these ten words insisting that I would not settle until I found “that guy” who does not give me anxiety; the one who consistently keeps my mind quiet. I was searching for the one who doesn’t make me wonder who he is texting, or if he is hiding something from me. I wanted to fall in love with the man who thinks about our relationship before his social life; THE ONE who makes “us” a priority.

This one little motto can be the key to finding a true love… if you just utilize it.

Passion is a noisy thing… but true love lives quietly“.

I get messages from heartbroken friends asking me all kinds of questions, but they never really listen to the words I say.  It’s as if they are desperately trying to hear something other than what they already know in their heart.


THAT nagging feeling… when you need to ask advise from a friend, would be the “noisy thing” the phrase is talking about. You subconsciously know the answers to all of your questions, but hope a friend will magically shed some new light onto the matter, bringing all your fears to a screeching halt.

Simply put, this is not love.

Yes, we need passion in our lives, but passion comes with love, not vice versa.  A relationship with one OR the other will never survive, they are a team.

For many years I was that girl. I felt alone in a relationship, giving it my all, and waiting for them to see the light. When in reality, it is so simple.

Passion is a noisy thing… but true love lives quietly”  Now that I have found my mind at ease, everything seems so clear.

I watch these friends with breaking hearts and I want to shake some sense into them. I want to grab them by the shoulders and yell “Why would you tolerate anything less than you deserve? Why would you put up with alcoholism, cheating, or commitment fears? ”


You do NOT have to feel this way. You do not need to waste years of your life when it is… SO. SIMPLE.  That feeling of longing and hurt in your stomach, where you want  them so bad you could die…”unrequited love”  is not love, it’s pure passion.

These types of relationships never work out; like the song says “You can be addicted to a certain kind of sadness”.

Several friends have told me they believe this is the right guy for me because… “I NEVER talk about him”.   I don’t need to, my mind is quiet.  I know he loves me and I am secure in the fact that he thinks of “us” above all.  I can’t say for certain what the future holds, but since I have tasted normalcy… I would never go back to the chaos that passion brings.

Be with the person who keeps your mind quiet. Be in a relationship that transcends anything you have ever known. True love is not this blissful Disney fantasy we may have created in our mind.  True love, is quiet.

Sure… my relationship is not perfect, but I can finally be myself.  I don’t have to worry about him getting mad at something stupid, which turns into a big fight where the relationship teeters on the brink of destruction all the time.

At the end of the day, no matter what… we respect each other, like friends do.

“Passion is a noisy thing… but true love lives quietly”

Having discovered this simple little secret, I would never put up with anything less.

Why should you?

For the people who still tolerate mediocre relationships with drama bigger than the roller coaster ride it feels like, please, I beg you to do the same.  Don’t be afraid of being alone with yourself for an extended period of time to learn what it is you really want…then don’t ever settle for less.

“When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to find you”.

None of us should sacrifice our sanity for a person who causes such noise in our lives.

RUN.   FAST… And don’t look back.

Passion is a noisy thing… Ahhhh but true love!

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Surviving Long Distance Love—> HERE

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8 comments on “True Love Lives Quietly

  1. Manpreet singh
    October 6, 2014

    It is beautiful..

    Liked by 1 person

  2. emilyturner23
    October 7, 2014

    So sweet! I agree and I know so many friends that say Oh this isn’t perfect, I don’t like this, he should do this, passionate, chilvary …but love is always a work in progress. Its a living thing that continues to grow and evolve. Some wonder how Im so happy in my relationship, but I didnt settle for just loud passion, I didn’t expect a perfect relationship but our love grew to the point where we are so in love we try to do whatever makes the other person happy and in the end I’m not only spoiled rotten but know it’s true love.


    • Britt
      October 7, 2014

      Isn’t is beautiful? It makes you wonder what you were thinking with past relationships. I know now… That I would never put up with anything less than my best friend. Yes, we argue sometimes, and we have differences, BUT somehow I know that even while arguing we still love each other. It’s not crazy dramatic, and it’s not tears or panic. It’s much simpler. I’m so happy we both found someone. Hugs

      Liked by 1 person

  3. victoriadougherty
    November 4, 2014

    Nice. And thanks, btw, for following me on Cold 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

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    December 30, 2016

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